So apparently, I hate MEN. Problem is that I am not aware in fact, it was only brought to my attention after I made a post about how NOT to give gifts. You don’t see the connection right? Yeah, neither did I.
While discussing this new revelation with Oee (my sidekick), he pointed out to me how controversial I am – ’twas actually more of a reminder really. Nigga says I’m unwavering in my convictions and while that isn’t such a bad thing, my opinions are rather strong for someone so frail. The disrespect over here is loud. Anywho, he says because I wield those opinions really loud and proud, they tend to go ahead of me. So because I’m not big on marriage, folks assume I hate men. Because I’m not big on using the basic tenets of Christianity as crutches to misbehave, folks assume I hate Christians. Issokay.
As disrespectful as Oee’s reminder was however, I understood his point to be true. I don’t take these opinions of me to heart, annoying as they are. I can recognize a bad case of cognitive bias when I see one. My deal is only that this basic behavior reduces us to lower-level animals that act on pure instinct. What makes us humans is our ability to rise above our primal instincts and infuse a measure, a sprinkle even, of intelligence into our reactions.
How to do this? Look, and then look again. It doesn’t hurt I promise. It helps to do things over, to go at an issue from more than one angle, to understand that a different opinion isn’t always a bad opinion. Look and live.
I dropped a post on Instagram today about how to beat your cognitive bias long enough to recognise phishing scams. It’s actually a real problem. Say your friend Solomon has an email address – email@example.com – through which y’all frequently communicate, and you can recognise this email in your sleep! Then one day, you receive a message from – firstname.lastname@example.org; look again. Notice what happened? That’s my point. We get so used to seeing things a certain way, get so stuck in familiar patterns that the mere thought of something different is almost an abomination to our minds. Cyber criminals understand this delicious weakness and exploit it fully!
Cams or Scams, you [and your eyes] get to choose.
One of the many beauties of cyber security issues is how well they imitate life. I mean technically, infosec is real life, but you get my point. Take my analogy in this read for instance; understanding how to manage your cognitive bias will both help you defeat phishing attacks and stop behaving like a simpleton to people. Two birds, one stone!
Seriously though, I get to see this play out one too many times and I’m exhausted by our behaviour, both in real life and on social media. Recently on Instagram, Lacrae posted a photo of him on bended knee before his wife, captioned it “She said…’It’s a strong maybe!’”. Note that Lacrae has been married for a decent number of years and has 3 kids, all with this same woman! Yet the sheer number of congratulatory messages in the comments were cringe-worthy. Apparently, taking a second look at stuff has become an abomination. I mean all it took to comment appropriately was a second look at the caption. C’mon people!
Or is it how Twitter people are all too in a hurry to completely condemn someone’s tweet because they once saw a controversial tweet on the other person’s timeline in October of 1876. It is the same way folks are quick to rush to a fake website to enter their credit card details because they got a mail from Amazon announcing a 70% discount sale. Madam, Bros; inside the email address, did you see email@example.com or firstname.lastname@example.org? As long as it’s got ‘amazon’ in there somewhere it’s all good abi? Until your bank account gets wiped clean by criminals and all you’re left with are debit alerts. OK oo, continue. If you like don’t cultivate a habit of double checking stuff, you’re doing yourself.
So two things;
1. There's this really dope quiz put together by Google that y'all would find most enlightening. You can find it here.
2. I DON'T HATE MEN.
End of Rant. As you were…